5/31/2010

Quantum Empowerment TrainingTM Blog: Relationships, Love, and Being “In Love”

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soulhangout said...

My dear Chris!!! Bravo!!!
What an amazing article! It is such a pleasure seeing a millennial like yourself spreading such light and truth! This is why you are the first official Millennial Ambassador for Soulhangout. It will be a privilege working with you. Thanks so much for being who you are.

May 31, 2010 1:22 PM

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A great article in response to my post of Captain Corelli's definition of love post, called "Let's talk about Love, by my dear friend Chris. He wrote an amazing article offering a deep analysis of how oour perception of love has been manipulated over the years leaving huge devastation in relationships in general. A must read. Thanks Chris for the response!

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Have a Soulful and Playful day, you and your Inner Child.

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5/30/2010

Let’s talk about love. | Soul Hangout

A Sunday to talk about love. Enjoy! My dear spiritual beings having the human experience. Have a mindful Sunday!

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day. | Soul Hangout

Have a Soulful and Playful day. You and your Inner Child.

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5/29/2010

Time is irrelevant | Soul Hangout

Time is irrelevant.The great consequence of change

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Have a Soulful and Playful day. You and your Inner Child.

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Facebook | Kandi Phillips: "You Are Desperately Needed" A must read!

This is a message from the Grandmothers. Time to start connecting to the net of light. A must read!!!

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5/28/2010

HowStuffWorks "Has Science Explained Life After Death?"

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Fascinating article about life and death!

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HowStuffWorks "Can scientists create a star on Earth?"

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Wish upon a star and sustain the energy with the collective consciousness

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Sweet Dreams!!! - Soul Hang Out

Great song for the mood of the day. From Becki Smith a fb friend. Everybody is looking for something. A way to fill the hole in the stomach...feels familiar? The wheel of use and abuse. Love this song. It portrays the human dream of separation

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Have a Soulful and Playful day. You and your Inner Child

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5/23/2010

Somewhere over the rainbow. Connie Talbot - Soul Hang Out

Remember the pot of Gold being by your Inner Child rainbow? Here is a reminder called Connie. An angel. Remember her? Keep dreaming. Enjoy!

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day. | Soul Hangout

Have a Soulful and Playful Sunday my friend. You and your Inner Child

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5/17/2010

There is no secret somebody knows about yourself you don't know about yourself | Soul Hangout

No secrets any more...

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The Wounded Healer - Soul Hang Out

Is in the experience where we find the real empathy

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Is Outsourcing Exploitation? - Entrepreneurs-Journey.com by Yaro Starak

I wasn’t going to write this article.

I was comfortable with my stance on outsourcing, comfortable enough to recommend it and promote products, and profit from the affiliate commissions, from people who use the catch-call of $2-per-hour labor and the phrase – “they do the work, you get the money“.

I’ve begun the process of outsourcing to the Philippines. We’re currently running tests to find a good graphics person, then next up will be a coder, a VA and so on until I have a solid team of talented people, all of whom will cost under $1600 a month total to employ full time. I can’t even hire ONE Australian full time on that kind of money, let alone an entire team.

I decided to write this article and highlight this issue because it bothers me. The people who emailed me to explain that outsourcing bothered them and that I contributed to the problem by promoting the idea, are to be credited for this article as well. A friend who challenged me, who pushed me to look very closely at my attitude towards outsourcing and the bigger picture, is also due credit for pushing me to shine a light on the issue and change how I outsource.

Sometimes You Need To Challenge Accepted Practices

If you’re considering outsourcing overseas, or you already do, it’s important you read this article.

Over the last few weeks I wrote several articles on the subject of outsourcing. It’s fairly obvious that I recommended outsourcing as a great way to grow your business or even start a business, and enjoy true leverage through help from other people.

The basic premise behind the type of outsourcing we are talking about here, is hiring people from other countries where labor is comparatively cheaper than hiring from your local country. This is only true if you reside in a country with a strong currency and comparably high average salary, like the USA, Canada, Australia or countries in the European Union. People from wealthy countries outsource to people in poorer countries in Asia and Eastern Europe, where there are plenty of skilled individuals willing to work for a fraction of the cost of hiring locally.

When I first heard about this concept many years ago it sounded like a great opportunity for me as an Australian earning money online in US or Australian dollars. Then, as I grew more exposed to the Internet marketing industry, when people promoted outsourcing, using language like “you can hire people for $2 an hour” something bothered me. I didn’t understand how people could be paid only $2 an hour and that not be considered slave labor. I started to wonder if this was a form of exploitation.

During John Reese’s Outsource Force launch campaign, which I promoted in my last few blog posts, John released a video which used the phrase “$2 an hour” as part of the benefit of outsourcing. This, at least to a business person thinking about reducing costs and increasing profits, is a selling point and well worth promoting as a good thing.

My readers are a varied bunch of people who come from all walks of life, with all kinds of opinions, which is wonderful because you provide me with different perspectives on what I write about. In response to some of the emails I sent out promoting John’s launch, I received a handful of messages from people upset that I was supporting what they viewed as exploitation, especially around the concept of $2 an hour labor.

While sometimes I receive negative feedback in response to my writing, it’s not often that I feel a need to write a post to respond to an issue. This time, I do – and it’s because on some level I actually agree with the negative feedback, which tells me that it needs more open discussion.

What Do People Think About Outsourcing?

I’ve interviewed internet marketers many times where the subject of outsourcing has come up. It’s such a common subject, because nearly all successful internet businesses use outsourcing in some way. In fact, outsourcing is often at the heart of the success of online business because of the leverage available from cheap labor, and the ease of access to it thanks to the digital age.

Recall the interview I did with Adam Short from Niche Profit Classroom, where he explained how he uses overseas outsourcers to build his niche websites and earn as much as $90,000 a month in income. During the call I asked Adam to justify his use of outsourcing given the claim that it could be viewed as exploitation. He explained his argument, which I came to see as a reasonable point of view, because it is based on helping people in other countries, not taking advantage of them.

More recently I interviewed John Jonas, who specializes in outsourcing to the Philippines. Due to the negative feedback I had received about the idea of outsourcing in the past, I specifically challenged John during this interview to explain his take on the exploitation issue. He had the same argument as Adam, which as you will hear in the recording with Jonas, I agreed with and supported.

When my business partner Gideon Shalwick recently hired a full time Filipino at around $400 US a month, I had a long discussion with him about why it is okay to do this and why it is not exploitation. Just a couple of days ago as I write this article, I talked to Gideon again and asked him to reiterate his stance once more. We talked for almost an hour about the subject, and agreed that the situation is not ideal, but on an individual basis, we are helping the people we outsource to.

I also asked my assistant Angela for her take, which turned out to be interesting as she had been discussing it with her husband, who had a view that I should hire locally to support Australia.

I spoke to some of my other friends to get their opinion on the issue. I also have the feedback emails I’ve received from people in response to my recent articles and emails about outsourcing, as well as feedback in the form of blog comments, including comments from several Filipinos, who explain what it is like being an outsourcer living in their country.

My conclusion after all of this is that I don’t actually have one that sits comfortably with me 100%.

Clearly the issue is not black and white, however I have decided to make a change, and I’ll explain why now.

When Is Outsourcing Bad? When Is It Good?

Before I talk about what I am going to do differently, it’s a good idea to lay out some of the biggest complaints people have about outsourcing overseas, so we know what we are dealing with and really take a deeper look at this issue.

I’ll also explain the common justification that most marketers use today to reason why outsourcing to cheap labor is okay, which you might explain as the good outcomes as a result of outsourcing.

Let’s begin the with the arguments against it…

  • Outsourcing overseas means you are not hiring locally, which results in fewer jobs, or even lost jobs in your country.
  • Outsourcing results in a flow of cash out of your country into another, potentially having a detrimental impact on your economy, causing local businesses, who employ locally, to lose business to cheaper overseas groups, and possibly even close up shop completely.
  • Paying $2 an hour (or similar) is slave labor, even if workers are happy with their pay. People should be paid a fair wage based on the benefit you gain from them, not what the fair wage is based on the standards in their economy.
  • If people work for you at pennies on the dollar, and you reap massive profits because of that – in other words, they do the work and you keep the money – it’s simply not fair. Why should one group do most of the work for enough money to survive, while another group becomes stinking rich?

We have two major issues at play. There is nationalism and the sense of separation of peoples based on geographical borders (the “us” versus “them” mentality). This is a belief that if you give to one nation (in this case hire people overseas), you are causing a loss to another nation (your country, because you don’t hire locally).

The other issue is fair pay for fair work, which is subjective. There are benchmarks and standards prevalent in every country, although that doesn’t mean it’s simple to know exactly what is “fair pay”.

One of the emails I sent out promoting Outsource Force talked about how I am looking to hire two Filipinos at a rate of around $300 to $500 a month for full time work. Later in that same email I wrote that I am offering half hour consultations, which I valued at $500, as a bonus for buying through my affiliate link.

Why is my time worth $500 for 30 minutes and someone in the Philippines worth $300 a MONTH?

You might claim that my time is more valuable because of my knowledge and position. It’s the same argument as to why a CEO of a company gets paid so much more than a mail boy in that same company.

(There’s an argument to say that pay scales are out of whack in Western countries too. Why does a professional athlete in certain sports earn so much more than a nurse or a teacher? But that’s a discussion for another day…)

To put it simply, we “value” certain roles greater than other roles. Sometimes this is justified due to the nature of the role requiring specialized knowledge, which could take years of study and practice to accumulate, or the responsibility for outcomes in that role is perceived as significant, thus due significant remuneration. Other times it’s the value society as a whole has decided to let something have, even if the justification might seem out of whack.

We often accept things, even if we don’t like them, because we don’t have the impetus to change them – there are other things in our lives we choose to focus on instead. It’s much easier to complain about something, than actually do something to change it.

So how can outsourcing overseas, when the pay rate seems so terribly small compared to the amount of time put in by the worker, be considered fair?

Even though $300 USD a month may not seem like much to someone living in a developed country, in Thailand, or Romania, the Philippines, or India, it’s above the average monthly wage. Sometimes as much as three times the average wage in that country, meaning this person is actually very well off when compared to others in their country.

That money affords the worker a quality lifestyle in their homeland. It may even provide enough money for them to support their family, which no one is going to argue is a bad thing. Throw in a few bonuses, some extra incentives for good work, and you have a situation where you feel like you are empowering someone and saving them from a situation where they might otherwise be earning half that money doing something like washing dishes.

That’s great right? You can’t argue against improving the quality of someone’s life, and in exchange you get a hard worker for your company?

In isolation, no, I don’t think you can argue there is anything wrong with helping people in a relationship where everyone benefits. The problem – which could be perceived as a moral one – comes from a situation where the value one person derives from the transaction is so much more than what the other person does. Of course, again we have the challenge of deciding how to “value” value – it’s different to everyone and a completely intrinsic judgment.

If $2 pays for a fantastic meal in Thailand, and the same meal costs $50 in Australia, yet the people who consume the meal all experience the same level of value – the satisfaction from a good meal – what’s the difference?

It’s also important to consider what people value. In Western culture we value “things” and focus on accumulation of material possessions as a means to feel good about ourselves, even if it is only a temporary satisfaction. In other cultures family, or community or faith are more important, and if your basic needs are met, there is no need to earn more money, it won’t result in any more happiness, and thus some people choose not to go after more money simply for the sake of material wealth.

However all of this assumes basic needs are being met, and in most countries where outsourcing takes place it is safe to say they are not – there is work still to be done to bring these countries up to developed standards.

Exploitation Or Just A Better Use Of Resources?

My friend Chris, when I asked for his opinion on outsourcing and whether it is exploitation, agreed with the topic definitely being a very “grey” issue, and came to this conclusion…

He views outsourcing not as exploitation, since the workers feel a benefit from their employment and are happy to do the work for what they are paid, however the business or person who does the outsourcing is taking advantage of a situation – a situation of inequality.

If you ask people who own businesses and outsource, would they pay what is considered an average wage in their country to get the same job done as they currently pay at much cheaper rates to someone overseas, they will probably say no, they won’t. You can’t afford to pay $4,000 a month to a local graphic designer for your business, so you don’t hire anyone, but you can afford $400 a month to an overseas outsourcer, in which case you do employ someone. In this scenario, at least someone gets a full time job, and your company grows quicker, allowing you to employ more people.

Let’s not forget, there’s nothing stopping an entrepreneur from the Philippines also hiring cheap labor from the Philippines (or India, or the Ukraine, etc) and reaping huge profits selling in American dollars on the Internet to a global audience, including Americans. Anyone with access to the Web has the same opportunity, it’s just what you do with it that counts, right?

Well sort of.

For many reasons, very likely due to the education system, values, culture, infrastructure, standards of living, and the economic and political environment, it’s much more likely that a person from a rich western country will start a business and outsource. People in third world countries face greater inherent challenges, and may simply not see entrepreneurship as an option to them. They don’t have the awareness of the opportunity on the same scale as people do in Western cultures and face more barriers to entry.

Here’s How I See The Problem

I look at it like this: On a micro level, outsourcing is helping the individual and those around him or her. It improves their lives, which is great.

On a macro level however, what we are looking at is one group of people who live in a richer country taking advantage of a situation that exists only because another country is poorer. On a macro level, the inequality is obvious – that’s why we have the label “third world country”. This means the standards of living are not the same, and we should be doing everything we can to ensure all human beings on this planet have basic standards like food, shelter and health.

This begs the question – does outsourcing help a country move away from third world status and raise the standards for everyone in that country?

I think the answer is yes it does, but it’s terribly slow.

I like using a projection based on what you might call a utopia of wage equality and financial opportunity, which could arise as a result of movements like outsourcing (others might call this globalization, but I think that label is difficult to interpret – it means different things to different people).

If enough money flows from one country into another, then the country receiving the money becomes wealthier. As it becomes wealthier the value of its currency becomes stronger and wages increase, thus outsourcing becomes less viable because it’s no longer “cheap labor” – it starts to move towards parity with developed countries.

The natural outcome as a result of this is for businesses to look for other countries where labor is still cheap. Eventually, given enough time, and believing in a world of abundance rather than scarcity, it’s possible to conceive that this process will help to equalize all nations, create a global currency of equal value and a global standard of wages regardless of what country you are located in.

This outcome may be a pipe dream, or even if it is not, we are not going to get there quickly.

The big fat reason for why this is?

Greed.

If people and companies prefer to hoard profits, which don’t forget is the purpose of a publicly owned company – to maximize profits for shareholders, most of whom live in developed countries – and this profit is made off the back of transactions based on inequality, like outsourcing to third world countries, then change is slow and one group benefits exceedingly more than the other.

How Can We Speed Up The Process?

The simple solution to this problem is to not be greedy.

That is such an easy statement to write in an article, but such a challenging concept to embrace fully and make part of your life. I’m greedy almost on a daily basis, yet I know I want this to change.

One attitude shift that I think is particularly powerful is to stop looking at the people in other countries as somehow separate from you. An American or Australian is no different from an Indian or a Filipino when it comes to basic human rights.

We are all human, and if the person living next door to you was starving and you have ample food, you’d offer some to them right? So why is this different when it comes to someone living overseas? Does the distance between you and them or the perception of differences based on race or nationality make it easier to discriminate? Yes it does, but it shouldn’t.

If you look at every human being as a member of your family that you care about just as much as you mother or father or sister or brother or daughter or son, then you wouldn’t allow yourself to be greedy while they suffered some kind of basic lack in their lives.

I’m not saying that people in the countries we outsource to are starving (although some are – and developed countries have problems too), but there is certainly an inequality that is not acceptable, especially if you continue to reap massive profits as a result of it, without doing more to give back than just taking advantage of it by paying a “good wage” based on current standards in that economy.

It’s critical that you adopt an attitude of abundance over scarcity. This process is about everyone having enough AND people enjoying wealth in exchange for passionate work. This is viable if you believe there is enough to go around if we learn how to distribute it without greed, or fear of loss.

You have to stop trying to keep up with your peers when it comes to accumulation of material possessions. Stop believing that by having more than what others have you will feel better. Avoid materialism, don’t listen to advertising and never attach your happiness to ownership of products – it’s an illusion that never lasts – you know that already. Understand that giving will make you feel good permanently, not buying things – you can’t fight this, it is part of your nature. Know when enough is enough.

One way to speed up this process is to take it on board as your responsibility to help the third world countries you outsource to, to raise their standards by reinvesting in, and supporting organizations that help people in that country.

The challenge is what proportion of the profits you reap from outsourcing, do you consider fair to return in support when it comes to helping people in other countries?

Some would say that simply choosing to outsource to a specific country is enough help. If a team of three full time outsourcers that cost you $1,000 a month helps you to make $20,000 a month in return, that’s just called good business right? You deserve to keep the profits and of course, your main focus is to make more. Once you make $20,000 a month, you want to get to $50,000, and then a million a year, then ten million and so on. There’s always more money to be made, and thus your profits should be reinvested towards continued growth.

Can you see a problem with this treadmill? There’s no endgame here and eventually the only purpose behind making more money is to make more money. Once you reach a certain amount, adding more millions really doesn’t matter, unless of course you are using it to help those in need.

I know as my truth, if you really drill down to our core motivations, the only real meaning you can derive from your human existence, is through helping and having an impact on others in a positive way.

Ask Yourself This Question

All of this comes down to choice, and your choice is based on your attitude. As you can tell, my own attitude has been in flux in regards to this situation, but deep down I’ve known something hasn’t felt 100% right, which is why I’m writing this article. You may or may not agree with me, that’s okay, but at least discussion is possible – change begins with awareness.

In my case, I’m going to commit to taking a larger chunk of the profits I make in part thanks to outsourcing, to directly support the countries I outsource to. I want to do more than just offer employment to a few people in that country, I want to help the entire population benefit in thanks for the benefits I gain.

The challenge I issue to you is to ask yourself whether, if you are outsourcing to cheap labor, you feel you are doing enough to help others with the profits you make. If you honestly feel good about the situation, that’s fine, keep doing what you are doing. If on the other hand, something is niggling at you, then consider what you are doing to give back.

I realize many reading this might be struggling to get by in the first place, and even finding $300 a month to outsource to just one full time employee is challenging enough. My intention is not to discourage you to outsource. On the contrary, whatever you can do to get yourself more quickly into a situation to help others is a good thing. Outsourcing can help your business grow more quickly, and as we discussed, it does help the people you employ. I haven’t changed my plans to outsource, only how I redistribute what I reap from it.

Just remember when you finally do break through to financial security – and that doesn’t have to mean you are a millionaire – you have the opportunity to support those who support you. If I have helped to plant that seed in you, then writing this article has been worthwhile.

Thanks for reading this to the end, good luck with your outsourcing and your business and don’t forget you always have the option to become part of the solution rather than just complain about the problem.

I value your feedback in particular on this subject, as I am far from in complete knowledge about the situation. If you have something to say, no matter what point of view you have about outsourcing or where you come from, please leave a comment.

Yaro Starak
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Here is a grea article by Yaro, calling our attention to rethink the principles of out sourcig. Big hug!

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Have a Soulful and Playful day my dear friend.

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5/16/2010

5/15/2010

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Facebook | Luz Aguirrebena

This is what I call a 50/50 Magic of the Middle line Laughter - Soul Hang Out

This is what I call a 50/50 magic of the middle line joint venture. Deliciously funny! Deliciously endearing as in baby modeling adults inner child material? :::)))

Enjoy and don't miss

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Never Think /Twilight soundtrack. | Soul Hangout

My friend Sharon brought this song and lyrics to my attention. I just love the song and the lyrics. It is about unconditional love. The one that understands it is not about the physical presence. Not about the illusion of separation and competition.

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Have a Soulful and Playful day.You and your Inner Child

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5/13/2010

Any dream will do. Keep dreaming. - Soul Hang Out

This is a great production. Must see. Very inspiring. I still don't know much about it but wanted to post it fast. Enjoy!

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Regina Ellis/ Aguas de Marzo - Soul Hang Out

In the mood for some Brazilian Condor Energy? See what it does to your right brain... Big hug

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4 Tips for Integrating Social Media Into the Classroom

Very interesting article my friend Dawn posted on her fb wall. Imminent changes

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Have a Soulful and Playful day. You and your Inner Child

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5/11/2010

Crime Pays for BP

My friend Daphne wrote this article. The numbers and bhavior behind the oil spill

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Have a Soulful and Playful day, you and your Inner Child, my friend

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Men brain Women brain. - Soul Hang Out

Good morning, good night to my friends on both sides of the sun! This is hilarious! A must see. Have a soulful day!

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5/10/2010

Always- A Poem by Pablo Neruda | Soul Hangout

Pablo Neruda, the poet from Chile. Who lived in Isla Negra. So close from where I vacationed when I was a child. He left us the delight of his poetry. Enjoy

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Have a Soulful and Playful day!

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5/06/2010

5/05/2010

Arianna Huffington: The Unplug and Recharge Challenge: Breaking Our Always-Connected Addiction

Hello, our names are Ellen and Arianna, and we are PDA-aholics. No, we're not addicted to public displays of affection (as nice as they may be). We're addicted to our personal digital assistants -- our iPhones and BlackBerrys, and all the other digital devices we can't live without (iPods and laptops and Kindles, etc.). Thankfully, we're both on the road to recovery.

Ellen's story:

I first realized I had a serious problem during a family vacation in Key West last February. At breakfast, at lunch, at dinner, even at the pool, I was never untethered. I was even on it during our Everglades tour, as my husband, my kids, and I stood a few feet away from about 20 alligators -- at least I think they were alligators. What's the difference between an alligator and a crocodile, anyway? Hey, let me Google that for us right now! My husband told me that he was going to throw it (and my laptop!) into the swamp. Or me.


Between my BlackBerry, my laptop, my iPod and oh, yeah, the TV too, I literally don't have a single "unplugged" moment all day. And boy do I feel wired -- and not in a good way!

Arianna's story:

My "aha moment" also came on vacation. It happened a few years ago, as I stepped off a tender to board a friend's boat anchored off the coast of Cannes. My BlackBerry was tucked into my shoulder bag. A shoulder bag with a small snap. A small snap that came open. A soft splash drew my attention. And I watched my BlackBerry sink into the sea. The finality was absolute. It wasn't as if I'd misplaced it and, after tacking up fliers and putting out a household-wide APB (All Pursue BlackBerry), would eventually track it down. Sure I had closure, but closure of the worst kind.


The only good to come from the loss was that it finally brought me face-to-face with my addiction--the reality brought home by the response of my friends, who all suddenly started treating me as if I'd suffered a major loss. And that's when it hit me: If my friends assumed that losing a small electronic device would devastate me, I must really have it bad. So I cut back from having three PDAs to two (you gotta start somewhere) and began dedicating myself to the idea that the best way to reconnect with myself is to regularly disconnect from our always-on world.

We realize that this is a widespread malady. Consider these stats:

  • In 2009, the average American watched more than 151 hours of TV a month -- an all-time high
  • 84% of people check their PDAs just before bed and as soon as they wake up -- and an astounding 85% peek at their PDAs in the middle of the night!
  • One survey found that over a third of smartphone users would pick their BlackBerry over their significant other if they had to choose one to live without!


If all this sounds like addiction, well, it probably is. In a new study, college students who went 24 hours without using any media -- no cell phone, iPod, TV, etc. -- then blogged about their experience, using terms of addiction to describe their feelings: in withdrawal, frantically craving, miserable, jittery, crazy.

And it has the same effect as an addiction when we feed it as well: We crave it, so we give in, but it doesn't make us feel good. For most of us, being wired all the time has totally stressed us out. We can't relax, and the result of all that stress -- particularly for women -- is:

  • We're more prone to colds, headaches, and stomach trouble.
  • Our skin is breaking out; stress increases oil production and thus acne.
  • We're gaining weight; we often overeat when tense, and we forget to exercise.
  • We can't get pregnant; stress has been shown to interfere with fertility.


And let's not forget the other troubles we're dealing with from being so plugged in all the time. Got neck and shoulder pain from all that texting? Check. How about BlackBerry thumb? Check. Done any texting while driving lately, and had an accident (or a near miss?) In fact, you're 23 times more likely to cause an accident when driving while texting.

The Health Magazine/Huffington Post Challenge
It's time to stop the madness. We at Health magazine and HuffPost Living want to help you de-stress, relax, and get your life back under control. It's time for us all to Unplug and Recharge.

Here's what we would like you to try: This month, we want you to spend 30 minutes a day doing something off the electronic grid: It can be 30 minutes all at once, or 30 minutes split into small chunks over the course of your waking hours. Ellen is going to use her 30 minutes to walk her dog in the park (no iPod on!). Arianna is going stick to the "no BlackBerrys during meals" promise she made to her daughters.

We'll give you all kinds of support to help you unplug and recharge: We've got easy meditation and other relaxation tricks, blogger experts who can help you develop a better work/life balance, and a diet and exercise plan that will get you off the computer and into the fresh air so you can clear your head and get into shape.

Think of it: After a slight withdrawal jitter or two, you may feel an incredible rush of freedom. That's when you'll finally feel ready to recharge -- and have more time and energy for what's really important: family, friends, and reconnecting with yourself.

Arianna, and Ellen, thanks guys. This is a great message for the detox process. Brilliant! Thank you again.

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5/04/2010

Arianna Huffington: Life in the Age of "Much Worse Than We Thought It Would Be"

What was just a troubling oil spill a week ago is now, according to Interior Secretary Salazar, "a very grave scenario," and "potentially... very catastrophic."

In other words, it's much worse that we thought it would be. Has there been a crisis in the last decade that turned out to be better than we thought it was going to be? We are still fighting two wars that were going to be cakewalks, but have now lasted nine years and seven years -- much worse than we thought it would be.

Katrina looked like it could be bad but -- even though there were plenty of people warning about a Category 5 storm breaching the levees -- the devastation ultimately was much worse than we thought it would be.

Same with the housing bubble that was fueled by the Wall Street casino. Even though we now know that people in the Fed were warning of big trouble ahead as early as 2004, the warnings were ignored -- and when the bubble burst in 2008, it was much worse than we thought it would be.

The foreclosure crisis hit hard in 2009. But the government promised to protect homeowners... so when the first quarter of 2010 brought the highest number of foreclosures since they began keeping records, the scope of the calamity was much worse than we thought it would be.

In October 2009, the unemployment rate hit 10.2 percent, a 26-year high. But the $787 billion stimulus package was going to bring that down. It has, but not by much. Turns out, the unemployment crisis is also much worse than we thought it would be.

Perhaps we should start calling this the Age of "Much Worse Than We Thought It Would Be."

Our shortsighted thinking is still on full display in the Gulf of Mexico, even as the enormity of the crisis becomes undeniable. In a speech on Sunday in Louisiana, President Obama called it a "potentially unprecedented environmental disaster," and said the spill "is unique and unprecedented." And in downplaying BP's responsibility for the spill, a spokesman for the company also called it "unprecedented," saying "it's something that we have not experienced before."

That's the nature of unprecedented things -- they've never happened -- until they happen. But just because something is unprecedented doesn't mean it's unpredictable or that we're unable to plan for it. We can't see the future, but we can prepare for it.

In practically every sector of our society, the old order is exhausted. But we seem incapable of making fundamental changes without the loaded gun of a full-blown crisis pointed at our heads. For example, the financial crisis -- and what it has exposed about the behavior of Wall Street -- has caused us to rethink the relationship between Wall Street and rest of our economy. It's obvious the old way of doing things is no longer viable. But, absent the sense that everything is about to collapse, we are dragging our feet on deciding what will replace it.

And there are some other "unprecedented," "unique" -- and potentially catastrophic -- problems headed our way if we continue to accept the old order's lack of imagination about what is possible. I'm thinking, first and foremost, of our debt problem.

And no, I'm not joining the forces of those who use the debt explosion as a backdoor way of cutting or killing Social Security or Medicare. But ceding this issue to such retro-thinkers makes it that much harder to seriously tackle the problem.

America is like a patient in danger of suffering a massive heart attack. We may be able to postpone things with a bit of outpatient surgery, but we won't be able to avoid it without some serious lifestyle changes. The economic coronary isn't quite here yet, but it's on the way. And when it hits, it will, of course, be "unprecedented" and "unique." But not unforeseen -- let alone unforeseeable. Here are just a couple of the symptoms of big time trouble ahead:

  • By 2020, interest on the debt alone will reach $900 billion per year.
  • That same year, five segments of government spending -- Medicare, Medicaid, Social Security, net interest and defense spending -- will account for an estimated 77 percent of all government expenditures. All other federal spending will have to come out of the remaining 23 percent.


And a recent report by the Bank of International Settlements makes it clear that this is a worldwide phenomenon. Financial advisor John Mauldin distills the report's bottom line: "Everyone and their brother intuitively knows that the current government fiscal deficits in the developed world are unsustainable."

The numbers in the Bank of International Settlements study make this clear. For instance, in Greece, the problem child of the moment everyone is looking at with horror, government debt could reach 130 percent of GDP next year. But Greece is far from alone. In the UK, it will hit 94 percent, and continue to go up 10 percent per year. And in the U.S., we could approach nearly 100 percent. As a Greek American, I'm all in favor of the two nations co-mingling, but sporting matching crippling debt is not what I had in mind.

"While fiscal problems need to be tackled soon," says the Bank of International Settlements report, "how to do that without seriously jeopardizing the incipient economic recovery is the current key challenge for fiscal authorities."

Exactly. And those fiscal authorities also need to remember that there is more to tackling the deficit crisis than just cutting spending. Rather, we need to think bigger -- we need to re-orient our economy so that it's once more an engine for production and productivity, not a vehicle for gambling and speculation. As Mauldin says of the old -- and still dominant -- order on Wall Street: "Let's be very clear. This was purely gambling. No money was invested in mortgages or any productive enterprise. This was one group betting against another, and a LOT of these deals were done all over New York and London."

Mauldin goes on to question why large institutional investors were even gambling on things like synthetic CDOs in the first place: "This is an investment that had no productive capital at work and no remotely socially redeeming value. It did not go to fund mortgages or buy capital equipment or build malls or office buildings."

So instead of limiting the deficit debate to talk of cutting entitlements, how about also having a discussion about moving to an economy that focuses on investing in small businesses and communities, and puts a premium on education and technology rather than on exotic financial instruments.

Last year, the Center for American Progress published its deficit reduction plan, entitled "A Path to Balance," by Michael Ettlinger, Michael Linden, and Lauren Bazel. "Large deficits can reduce national savings, push up interest rates, spark inflation, and adversely affect exchange rates," the authors wrote while warning that they "also provide fodder for those who wish to block new initiatives and scale back existing programs."

The plan calls for a "sloping path" to deficit reduction, as opposed to a "dive off a precipice," and has a goal of a fully balanced budget by 2020, with benchmarks all along the way.

A few months before its plan was released, CAP hosted an event called "Progressives and the National Debt: Consequences and Solutions." Princeton economist Alan Blinder noted that "in 1980 [policymakers] knew about the year 2010 but that was really far away." Well, it's not anymore, and given that much of our deficit problem is about huge numbers of workers born decades ago now hitting retirement age, Blinder quipped that: "the long run is now the short run and they're combining."

The needs of the past and the demands of the present exert a powerful pull on our attention while the future doesn't have many advocates -- it's always something we can get to later. And there was a time when we could get away with pushing our problems down the road, secure that our reserves would always bail us out. And there was a strong safety net to catch those who fell through the cracks. Well, those reserves are gone now and the safety net is frayed and full of holes.

So before the big deficit coronary hits, and is exploited by those who've been itching to slash entitlements ever since FDR and LBJ signed them into law, let's widen the discussion, and think bigger.

For a change, let's imagine a crisis that is worse than we think it will be, and take the necessary steps to avoid it. If we don't, we'll find ourselves facing another "unprecedented" disaster.

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5/02/2010

The Truly Successful Blogger - Soul Hang Out

There are those in the blogosphere that say that to be successful a blogger must post some type of information at least three times a week. Most also say that these posts should be a certain length and should contain certain strategically placed, platform based key words for blog search engines to latch onto.

According to these experts in all things blogging, a reader will not stay engaged with a blogger unless the blogger meets the minimum posting requirement. If the Powers That Be are correct, I am destined to be a miserable failure as a blogger. I only blog when I have something to say. Sometimes I post once a week; sometimes I post every other week; and God forbid, sometimes I only post once a month. And as far as key words, well, the only keys I have are on my key ring and computer keyboard. I won’t even go into platforms—because I don’t have one. I’m a writer. I just write. End of story.

I envy bloggers who can pump out a blog post every couple of days. As I sit staring at my keyboard every week, I wonder how they do it. To be honest, I just don’t have that much to say. Seriously, my life isn’t all that exciting; and as far as giving any great advice—advice you people just can’t live without—well, I don’t have much! Sure, I could write about the nuts and bolts of writing all day long; but I’d just be regurgitating what has already been said in the gazillions of writing books lining the shelves of your local libraries and bookstores—books that I would encourage you to read for yourselves.

I put a great deal of thought into my blog entries. A few times, I considered writing about the daily grind of my personal life; but then I realized I wouldn’t have anything to journal about. Trust me; I need to journal. It keeps me sane. And while I’m absolutely crazy about all of you, I’m not crazy enough to put my journal on line. Yeah, posting those entries would earn me a one-way ticket to my local psyche ward. Hey, I never said I was sane. I am a writer, after all.

As many of you know, I sometimes write about my family members. But I try to do so sparingly. While their antics are virtual gold mines of possibilities—they are gold mines that, for the most part, I like to keep private. That’s right; you only get to skim the surface of these shiny gems. I’m saving most of these precious little jewels for that six-figure book deal. Copyright laws prevent me from saying more.

Speaking of book deals, no I don’t have one; but the concept is an excellent segue into my next thought. I am a fiction writer, so that is what I spend the majority of time writing. For a while, the Powers That Be had me wondering if I had a broken chromosome in writer’s DNA. Seriously, people, my daily word allocation is limited. I have only so many words I can use a day. Most of these go into my books. I mete out any leftovers between my poetry, my short stories, and my blog posts. It’s slim pickins!

As a writer, I know that I must take care not to overextend myself. For me, overextension equals disequilibrium, and disequilibrium equals steams of unintelligible drivel. In other words, when I don’t properly allocate all of my writing resources, I do nothing more than drool all over the page. I’m not really into drooling, verbal or otherwise, and I don’t think drooling with keep you engaged. I know there are writers out there that can write an interesting, succinct post in an hour or less. I am not one of those writers. It takes me all day to write a blog post—sometimes two. I know. I know. If I would follow the mandatory word count, it wouldn’t take so long. What can I say? I’m just a rebel at heart.

In my opinion, there is no right or wrong way to blog. There is no correct word count. There is no perfect posting schedule. And, believe it or not, Google’s spiders are not going to make your blog any more popular than it already is. Oh, they might lead a few people to your site; but if your message doesn’t resonate with them, they won’t come back. It’s about the draw of the message within the posts. Each blogger has his/her own audience. Each writer will attract the audience that resonates with his/her message. I believe if a writer writes from the deepest part of his/her soul, his/her writing will bear fruit. People will want to read what he/she has to say. It’s about originality—not conformity. And, for me personally, it’s about speaking my truth—not making money.

Each of us has a message we have been tasked to give to the world. My message will not be the same as yours—but it will be just as vital, just as relevant, to those who have been tasked to hear it. I believe:
There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all Time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost. . .” (Letter from Martha Graham to Agnes De Mille)

My inexperienced and therefore humble advice about blogging is simply this: Write from your heart. Your blog is your own little field of dreams. If you write it, they will come. And if they are called to your work—they will stay! I have built the foundation of my own field of dreams securely upon the words of Frank Marshall Davis. I want nothing more than to be:
A painter with words
Creating sharp portraits
On the wide canvas of your mind.

What about you?

Nuff said.

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